Healthy Shame verses Toxic Shame. There is a very real difference between healthy shame and toxic shame. "Healthy shame is I did something bad (lie, steal), toxic shame is believing I am bad" as quoted by Brene Brown.
Improve self esteem and re-build your confidence. We often judge ourselves and others harshly. We cover up our shame by trying to be perfect.
Do you question who you are and can't seem to find the answer? Uncover your real self, under the masks and behind the walls we put up to protect ourselves.
Overcome the fear and pain of rejection & abandonment.
Dianne Spencer founded Breaking Free in 1997.
For over twenty five years Dianne has been successfully helping people to heal their emotional pain and traumas.
By equiping them with a range of tools and strategies that help them transform their negative thoughts, belief systems and toxic patterns and cycles, that have kept them feeling powerless, trapped and worthless.
Dianne, like many of her clients, sought help for the pain of childhood trauma and abuse.
However, often it feels like we are trapped on this never ending roller coaster and nothing seems to really work.
Eventually Dianna did discover some things that worked for her and she began the healing journey to reclaiming her body and life.
As they say "the rest is history". Thousands of people from around Australia and overseas can testify to the healing they have experienced thanks to Breaking Free services.
The outcome is emotionally healthy adults = emotionally healthy children and therefore a healthier society for us all.
If Dianne can heal, so can you. You just need the right tools and information which is what you will receive when you sign up for one of the Breaking Free programs.
You deserve it and so do your loved ones.
I encourage you to book in for a free half hour Zoom, Skype or Phone consultation with me and decide for yourself.
Shelly 41 - "Dianne, you are a miracle worker. I have spent 12 years in therapy trying to deal with childhood trauma and after only a short time with you - I can say that I feel 1000% better and ready to move forward and leave the past behind. I can't recommend your work enough. Your gentle approach made it so much less painful than I thought it would be. Thank you”
Clifford (Mental Health Clinical Nurse) - “I am delighted to be asked to write a letter of support for Dianne Spencer and the "Breaking Free Centre Inc". I am a mental health case worker (Clinical Nurse) working for Caboolture Adult Mental Health and can confirm the crucial role that Dianne plays in improving the overall mental health of our community. ~
Our service offers an assessment service for this community. The effects of childhood abuse are clearly obvious in a large percentage of presentations however there are very few places where such people can be referred. Such clients often suffer depression and anxiety as well as psychotic disorders, self-harm and other forms of self-abuse are also prominent in this group.
From a public mental health perspective there is a limit that one can do. We can attempt to help those who experience severe mental illness but many people who continue to suffer from the effects of childhood do so in silence, in a community that is only slowly coming to understand the ramifications of such abuse. Often these people only come to the attention of government services at times of crisis, when the presentation is often one of self-harm.
Dianne Spencer's project "Breaking Free Centre Inc." is an invaluable service and I have referred many extremely distressed people to her in the past and have heard nothing but positive feedback about the process. One critical factor that Dianne brings to her service that is absent from other services is the fact that Dianne and her co-workers are all victims of childhood abuse and are living examples of the process of healing and recovery from the symptoms of abuse. Recently I rang Dianne to refer to her an extremely distressed person from Bribie Island only to discover that "Breaking Free Inc. " cannot service this area due to lack of a vehicle. This is most distressing to potential clients. I cannot stress strongly enough the importance of Dianne's work and commend her and her organisation to you with extremely high praise.”
Anonymous Client – “I suffered with chronic pain in my left shoulder for 19 + years and no amount of medication; physio or osteo therapy had been able to relieve it completely.
I first sought help from my physiotherapist when my youngest daughter was about 18 months old and was told that it was a result of constantly lifting and carrying her. Little did I realise that the carrying was not only physical and that it would continue until she was almost 21!
Last year I had been to a clairvoyant healer who had picked up on the pain and told me that it was related to my daughter and my ex-husband, she worked on it, but it didn’t heal.
I met Dianne Spencer in January 2013 and was impressed with her warmth and positive, caring manner and shortly thereafter I started attending Breaking Free sessions and sought her help to assist me in coming to terms with my marriage breakup. One evening I was to attend a meditation session and was debating whether or not to go as my shoulder had been playing up that day. Dianne messaged me and said that there would be just 3 of us so I decided that I would go. On the way there I took some Nurofen which helped slightly but by the time I arrived it was still quite painful. The Universe was surely looking after me that night because the other participant cancelled and therefore, it was just the two of us. Dianne could see that I was in pain with my shoulder and suggested that we do some one-on-one work to relieve it.
Dianne’s process is nothing short of amazing! With her help and guidance, I was able to realise the source of my pain and address it and come to terms with issues that I was not consciously aware of. At some stage I became aware that the pain had completely disappeared and put it down to the Nurofen. However, as I was driving home I kept thinking, “There’s NO pain and Nurofen never works that well, maybe the process worked!”
It has now been about 3months, the pain has not returned and I have been able to talk to my daughter about things that were annoying/upsetting me. I have since worked with Dianne on other issues which were causing headaches and they too have stopped.
My physio, knowing what I have gone through for nearly 20 years, has validated Dianne’s emotional & body work process and is impressed with how well it has worked for me.
I can only say that for me, Dianne has worked miracles and I would recommend her to anyone suffering either physically or emotionally.
Because this testimonial involves my family I prefer to remain anonymous however I would be more than happy to provide further information upon request to Dianne”.
A specialised 10 week course that will teach you how to dissolve the destructive patterns of stress, frustration, hurt and rejection, that builds into anger and even deep buried rage.
Do your emotions control you? What is and isn't anger? What are the repeated triggers that keep tripping you up in your life? Learn how to measure and improve your self-esteem and self worth. Learn how to stop sabotaging your own, happiness, success, health and relationships. Learn how to stop the build-up of the volcano erupting Identify and remove your hidden fears and sabotage. Uncover unresolved events and process them in healthy ways. Uncover damaging beliefs. The victim thought cycle. Who are You? Uncover your true identity, releasing the lies you currently believe in. Reclaim your truth. Review your progress. Celebrate your success. Plan for the Future!
Remove the tattoo is an innovative new program which helps people break free from destructive patterns. Patterns which have been keeping people stuck in abusive and powerless relationships, environments, thoughts. This program will teach you how to identify the patterns created within your life, reprogram the thoughts and remove that tattoo for good!
Dianne teaches from personal experince as she too had been a victim of family and generational domestic violence. Dianne broke the cysle of abuse and is now proof that you can too.
In this particular program, Dianne will assist you in identifying your hidden fears and sabotage triggers. This will include letting go of toxic guilt and shame and blame which in return will allow you to take control of dysfunctional thought patterns and create new healthy cycles to overcome rejection and abandonment.
What does your current self worth look like? Are you dealing with feelings of confusion, betrayal and resentment towards yourself and others? If you feel these negative feelings and thoughts are contaminating you, it is time to find your authentic identity. In return, you will learn to trust yourself and others again. You will stop blaming and punishing loved ones. It is time to take back your power, voice and body in a powerful self esteem programme.
Have the things that originally helped you to avoid your pain and numb out, are now the very things that are contaminating your relationships? Your healt? Your life? Do these things now control your life? You don’t want to use them, but you also don’t know how to live without them? If you answered yes to any of these, than this program will help set you free from your addictions and distractions. Over many years of working with people with addictions, everyone acknowledges the reasons they use; drugs, alcohol, food, sex, pornography, violence, gambling, shopping, spending money, working, making money, ect., is because they will do anything to avoid feeling and to shut down their mind. So they find what works for them, to help them numb out and escape from themselves, their families and the world for a while. Unfortunately, they soon discover they need more and more and then this takes over and becomes the very thing that keeps them trapped in a cycle of misery, conflict, pain and hardship. If you have had enough of this endless rollercoaster then there is hope! The effective Healing and Recovery Programs offered can and will set you free, If you are ready to try! The 10 week Healing and Recovery Program will teach you how to get off the rollercoaster and win the battle that rages from within.
Nominee in 2000 and 2013 Australia Day Awards Community Division.
Winner of The Earle Duus Memorial Award 2000 In Recognition of Achievement in the Advancement of People with Psychiatric Illness within the community.
Winner in the Individual Category in the Queensland Mental Health Achievement Awards
There is a fee for our services, however we do have a sliding scale.
cons/pens/students rates are available.